d29565 wrote:I will mention one of the main faults I found in Ryzom. While I gained a good amount of friends, and even met a few people I can honestly say I love to death, I also began to lack in the amount of friends IRL.
I'm only now beginning to reimerse myself in society. I hate it. I have never been a big fan of people. But the best way to get anywhere is to "network," so now I'm having to learn how to talk to people and make friends IRL, without the help of a common interest like Ryzom.
Allow them to befriend you instead of aiming yourself to making friends, people are surprisingly happy to make you a friend. Be a good listener then you'll soon find what other common interests might there be apart Ryzom
I am living both my experience and one of my closest friend's one and paralleling it a lot. When I left Ryzom (because actually I "retired" some weeks before the Big Lag) I realised I miss a lot nature, earth, rain, a river, such things. That was easy to put back, I was lazy before gaming, now I was thirsty to go out more.
On the social part I realised it's harder to make words come to me because I was too much in the writing rhytm and less in the talking one. That was both amusing and irritating because all my life before gaming I used to be very outspoken among friends. Maybe it was a sort of temporary cripling but when you get over it you realise also you learnt to keep your moth shut and think a little more before uttering your first judgement.
On the opposite side though my friend who was lazy before now got even more indoors and it takes a huge effort to get him out. So... yeah, can go both ways. Now we all have dreams that come true and some others that fail. From our experience I feel there is a danger to think that the character you created in Ryzom (which highly represented you and made you naturally happy) is the real good dream came true and stop pursuing the harder and at time less satisfacting RL dream, or cease seeing it, which is the same.
Now living indoors or outdoors doesn't make for me a huge difference - you can tell I'm not a doctor
Nevertheless most big brains of this world (doctors included) lived mostly indoors as life is short and most of our dreams are a bit longer than natural life. But the second thing, abandonning the RL search for your dreams and being only happy with your Ryzom life, that's dangerous and certainly bad. Not because RL is more important, important is what you feel important, after all. But because RL achievements can so much deeper make you happy, and also because every achievement in RL changes a little our world. Because Ryzom, like any other game, puts in front of you fake difficulties. Prevailing over them tells little to nothing about yourself. Finally because Ryzom, like all art (living inside a novel or a movie is by no means better), like all games is some people's imaginary world.
While it is a beautiful experience to dive into other people's interior world (no matter if we listen to a piece of music, see a movie or understand a MMO world), creating our own interior world is what really defines us as humans. Borrowing/buying other's is - more or less consciously - cheating and we are not forgiven if we do it.