
You've summed it up extremely well, and all I have left to say, I've already said.
I generally stay in my own, quiet, peaceful area. I don't ignore conflict if it lands at my doorstep, but I try to avoid running into it when I don't want to.
I think your analogy to the live action RP group was a good one, and illustrated some things quite well.
In any case, if you've read any of my other posts, you'll see that I agree with your feelings on this subject, though I don't think I've said as much in a direct manner.