Re: The Last Straw
Posted: Sat Jan 29, 2005 6:30 am
Hello,
This is going to be my last post on the subject, and it will be a long post. This post is addressed to all the involved players, including myself. Call me a carebear, call me a peace maker, ignore my post, I'm fine. My goal with this post? forget the whole last week and let it go. Will I succeed? not sure. Do you think I am whinning and as Milfy says "I need cheese"? not really, I'm rather asking. Maybe I need some love :*) or maybe I just need to vent and type....Don't mind my wording tho, english is, to my biggest dismay a foreing language to me.
I'm based in Europe. Unfortunately, this means that most days, from 6:00 PM EST to 2:00 AM EST I'm sleeping. You'll say "well, go play EE!"... true.. and I thought about it, but I was in NA shard from the very beginning, I enjoyed going through FBT and I had a great time being in Takashi's FBT-Melinoe. So I stayed. It was also curious to be the very first player in the shard I played alone for 2 days and I had the best customer support ever 2 GMs per player. This means that I have to stay awake sometimes to share a passion with friends I made. This also means that I cannot witness everything that happens, and that I don't know most things. This is also the reason why I post here (I should not) because I cannot contact you all easily in game.
For starters, I applaud, to some extent, the "loyalty" the each player is showing to his mates. We all make mistakes and bad decisions. I try to get a reasonable view of minor issues even if this may mean that someone on our side did something wrong. Yes, it happens.
A difficult issue in these *games* minor conflicts is the duality "a guild member represents the guild and as such the whole guild is to blame for a member's action" and "it is not because a player is in a guild that I have to take sides and consider long-time friends and nice players as *cough*enemies*" The former is a good means to add roleplay if kept in a healthy RPG-wise and fun way. I fully understand the second.
Let's get things real. Atys is not a hippy world. Some players will not get on well with others and that's a fact. Unfortunately, this is getting too personal. Good friends are feeling harassed. Good friends that play for fun feel like they are at blame. No one objectively can get a full view of the situation. When minor (yes minor) conflict arise, there are always too many "he said/she said", too many "he/she did and I did not". Naturally, we all tend to believe our own guildmates/friends, because we learn to know them, we laugh with them, we play with them a few hours a day.
In this particular case, we are all to blame, we have all made bad choices and it's hard for us to apologyze. My biased opinion on the subject? why stir things up once and again?. If you know that you did something that according to your own principles it's on the edge, think about it. For example, I asked takashi about storing mats on vendors. The official answer was "it is not a bug nor a exploit" YAY, Let's go... you know, I still don't use them, just because I still think I shouldn't, despite how convinient it may be.
I tend to think I'm mature enough to make the difference between a player and a toon. I like the way Raynes, DT and Zen are adding a bit of healthy racial conflict to the game. What is my personal position? I am not mad. Shocked at first? yes. Driven by a real time emotion? yes. I slept since then, and I'm cool. Heck, I did not even get DP actually.
@Zen: you are a good guild leader, as I've been told. I enjoyed playing with Pandorae and Pheid a few months ago. I am going to use this subject as an excuse to jump in and get more involved in the background lore and roleplaying. I'll roleplay a non extremist karavan supporter. I'll clearly make the difference between IG and OOC. We can discuss details OOC, we can roleplay IG. I will not attack harvesters, and, unless consensually, I will not strike first. I can bear up, to some extent, being killed while moving, or even harvesting (well some tribes already do) but racial conflicts do not mean kill on sight. All I ask, is that if OOC I feel like digging quietly for a while, please let me dig for a few, prolly after a pull or two I'll switch to HP gear and we can have some fun PvPing.
@Jug: I've talked to you for a few hours since the early ages. I understand you gave your support to a guildmate when you learnt something that according to your principles was wrong. I don't agree with some things (you could have talked first, I was also there), but it's no biggie...
@Spike: I'm afraid I have not had the chance, for good or bad, to play with you often. For any reason, you wanted your guild to put a bounty on sin's head. Ok it was done. I died too, btw. Now, I am kindly asking you not to have a whole guild hunting him down. Not only because he's a friend, but also because having a whole (large) guild hunting down a single player seems wrong to me (again, own opinion)
In summary, I, for one, am going to go more into a healthy fun RPG. I won't ask a guild member to stop playing with/chatting with/Teamspeaking with any player. Let's just forget this. Right now, I feel sad to see players not having fun. I don't really care about "who was first/wo did what". If every action is going to have a reaction this will never end.
Thanks for reading and bearing with me
Regards,
Anissa
This is going to be my last post on the subject, and it will be a long post. This post is addressed to all the involved players, including myself. Call me a carebear, call me a peace maker, ignore my post, I'm fine. My goal with this post? forget the whole last week and let it go. Will I succeed? not sure. Do you think I am whinning and as Milfy says "I need cheese"? not really, I'm rather asking. Maybe I need some love :*) or maybe I just need to vent and type....Don't mind my wording tho, english is, to my biggest dismay a foreing language to me.
I'm based in Europe. Unfortunately, this means that most days, from 6:00 PM EST to 2:00 AM EST I'm sleeping. You'll say "well, go play EE!"... true.. and I thought about it, but I was in NA shard from the very beginning, I enjoyed going through FBT and I had a great time being in Takashi's FBT-Melinoe. So I stayed. It was also curious to be the very first player in the shard I played alone for 2 days and I had the best customer support ever 2 GMs per player. This means that I have to stay awake sometimes to share a passion with friends I made. This also means that I cannot witness everything that happens, and that I don't know most things. This is also the reason why I post here (I should not) because I cannot contact you all easily in game.
For starters, I applaud, to some extent, the "loyalty" the each player is showing to his mates. We all make mistakes and bad decisions. I try to get a reasonable view of minor issues even if this may mean that someone on our side did something wrong. Yes, it happens.
A difficult issue in these *games* minor conflicts is the duality "a guild member represents the guild and as such the whole guild is to blame for a member's action" and "it is not because a player is in a guild that I have to take sides and consider long-time friends and nice players as *cough*enemies*" The former is a good means to add roleplay if kept in a healthy RPG-wise and fun way. I fully understand the second.
Let's get things real. Atys is not a hippy world. Some players will not get on well with others and that's a fact. Unfortunately, this is getting too personal. Good friends are feeling harassed. Good friends that play for fun feel like they are at blame. No one objectively can get a full view of the situation. When minor (yes minor) conflict arise, there are always too many "he said/she said", too many "he/she did and I did not". Naturally, we all tend to believe our own guildmates/friends, because we learn to know them, we laugh with them, we play with them a few hours a day.
In this particular case, we are all to blame, we have all made bad choices and it's hard for us to apologyze. My biased opinion on the subject? why stir things up once and again?. If you know that you did something that according to your own principles it's on the edge, think about it. For example, I asked takashi about storing mats on vendors. The official answer was "it is not a bug nor a exploit" YAY, Let's go... you know, I still don't use them, just because I still think I shouldn't, despite how convinient it may be.
I tend to think I'm mature enough to make the difference between a player and a toon. I like the way Raynes, DT and Zen are adding a bit of healthy racial conflict to the game. What is my personal position? I am not mad. Shocked at first? yes. Driven by a real time emotion? yes. I slept since then, and I'm cool. Heck, I did not even get DP actually.
@Zen: you are a good guild leader, as I've been told. I enjoyed playing with Pandorae and Pheid a few months ago. I am going to use this subject as an excuse to jump in and get more involved in the background lore and roleplaying. I'll roleplay a non extremist karavan supporter. I'll clearly make the difference between IG and OOC. We can discuss details OOC, we can roleplay IG. I will not attack harvesters, and, unless consensually, I will not strike first. I can bear up, to some extent, being killed while moving, or even harvesting (well some tribes already do) but racial conflicts do not mean kill on sight. All I ask, is that if OOC I feel like digging quietly for a while, please let me dig for a few, prolly after a pull or two I'll switch to HP gear and we can have some fun PvPing.
@Jug: I've talked to you for a few hours since the early ages. I understand you gave your support to a guildmate when you learnt something that according to your principles was wrong. I don't agree with some things (you could have talked first, I was also there), but it's no biggie...
@Spike: I'm afraid I have not had the chance, for good or bad, to play with you often. For any reason, you wanted your guild to put a bounty on sin's head. Ok it was done. I died too, btw. Now, I am kindly asking you not to have a whole guild hunting him down. Not only because he's a friend, but also because having a whole (large) guild hunting down a single player seems wrong to me (again, own opinion)
In summary, I, for one, am going to go more into a healthy fun RPG. I won't ask a guild member to stop playing with/chatting with/Teamspeaking with any player. Let's just forget this. Right now, I feel sad to see players not having fun. I don't really care about "who was first/wo did what". If every action is going to have a reaction this will never end.
Thanks for reading and bearing with me
Regards,
Anissa