Giving my two cents worth of thoughts.
How about creating 2 dp system?
One is the current, the other wat qmodal suggest (eg Losing fame etc)?
Then the player which select which DP system they want to use.
(If they want harsher penalty, they can choose the harsher one. If they don't want harsher penalty, then they select the lenient one. That way I guess we will not force the way we like to play this game onto other players

So will it satisfy 80% of the players?
Hee, as usual rumbling some non sense
